Body-Positive and Health at Every Size (HAES) Care Services & Resources

Dr. Ana Paunovic, M.D., HAES-centered medical care (DC)

Be Nourished events and services for Intuitive Eating, Health at Every Size (HAES), and fat liberation

Body Kindness with nutritionist and body-positive entrepreneur Rebecca Scritchfield

Health at Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight by Lindo Bacon

Health at Every Size community resources

HAES Health Sheet Library (downloadable, explains common medical conditions in the context of fatphobia)

Resilient Fat Goddex consulting for health care professionals to better serve clients of size (also offers fat support groups and coaching to those suffering eating disorders)

Body-Positive Parenting

The Full Bloom Project (body-positive parenting)

Body-Positive Photography

Blue Boy Photography (trans-inclusive photography)

Three Boudoir photography studio

Healing Body Image

Body Kindness: Transform Your Health from the Inside Out– and Never Say Diet Again by Rebecca Scritchfield

The Body Positivity Card deck by Judith Matz and Amy Pershing

Paula D. Atkinson, LICSW Body Liberation support groups (on Zoom)

“The Problem with Poodle Science” video about the limitations of our research on weight and health, by the Association for Size Diversity and Health on YouTube

The Body Is Not An Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor

You Have the Right to Remain Fat by Virgie Tovar

Size-Inclusive Fitness

Jessamyn Stanley (body image/fat yoga)

Mindfully Active body-inclusive fitness

KAB Career Coach

Sequence Counseling & Consulting career counseling services

Art Therapy

HCA Virginia hospitals including Dominion Hospital in Falls Church offer Integrative Therapy programs including a variety of art therapy programs.

Medical/Physical Care

Dr. Ana Paunovic, M.D., HAES-centered medical care (DC)

Dr. Carter Owen, M.D.– trans-friendly OBGYN & fertility specialist (VA)

Dupont Circle Physician’s Group– LGBTQIA+ friendly primary care (DC)

Hannah Schoonover, PT, DPT (they/them), pelvic floor physical therapist (DC)

Dr. Irwin Goldstein, founder of the field of sexual medicine (CA)

Dr. Marie Jeffsell, physical therapist who does pelvic floor work with men (DC)

MedStar Gender Affirming Surgery and support resources (MD, DC, VA)

Dr. Natalya E. Danilyants, MD, nonbinary-friendly OB-GYN (MD)

Northern Virginia Pediatric Associates for trans-inclusive children’s care

One Medical– LGBTQIA+ friendly primary care (DC)

Ophelia Mbah, PMHNP, psychiatric nurse practitioner (Baltimore)

Transition Physical Therapy, pelvic floor physical therapy services (NoVA)

Support and Coaching Groups

DBT skills groups offered through the Montgomery County Counseling Center (MD)

Gender Spectrum’s online groups for gender-expansive youth and their families

Gender Wellness Clinic youth support groups at The Heartwood Program (MD)

Paula D. Atkinson, LICSW Body Liberation support groups (on Zoom)

Rock Recovery therapeutic and group services for eating disorders in DC, VA, and CA

Trans & nonbinary support groups at the DC Center for the LGBT Community

Trans Families VA (Facebook page/community)

Surrogate Partners

Brian Gibney, surrogate partner therapist

International Professional Surrogates Association

Surrogate Partner Collective

Fibromyalgia

“Central Sensitization Syndrome and the Initial Evaluation of a Patient with Fibromyalgia: A Review” by Kevin C. Fleming, M.D. and Mary M. Volcheck, R.N.

Consent

“Consent: It’s Simple As Tea” YouTube video

The Consent Primer: Foundations for Everyday Life by The Consent Academy

The Wheel of Consent online workshop series with Amy Weissfeld and JoJo Bear

Yes, No, Maybe Checklist on Bex Talks Sex

Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Checklist on Scarleteen

Couples Therapy and Healing

The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, and Validation by Alan E. Fruzzetti and Marsha M. Linehan

Dating Guidance

The Dating Advice Girl, Erin Tillman (dating coach)

Wellcelium (sex ed, intimacy, relationships; queer/trans founded)

Ending a Relationship

“How to Fix a Broken Heart” TED Talk by Guy Winch

Infidelity

The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel

When You’re the One Who Cheats: Ten Things You Need to Know by Tammy Nelson

Sensate Focus

“Recovering Your Sex Drive with Sensate Focus Mindful Touching Techniques” on YouTube by Linda Weiner, MSW, LCSW AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, Supervisor, CE Provider

Sensate Focus description & instructions PDF from Cornell Health

Dysfunctional/Toxic Family Dynamics

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lyndsay C. Gibson, PsyD

Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life by Susan Forward

Fertility, Adoption, and Childbirth

Dr. Carter Owen, M.D.– trans-friendly OBGYN & fertility specialist (VA)

The Center for Adoption Support and Education

Marriage and Life Partnership

Before “I Do”: Complete Pre-Marital Counseling Workbook for Heterosexual, LGBTQ, and Polyamorous Couples by Olivia L. Baylor

(En)Gender blog for partners of gender variant people

Parenting

Crossroads Family Counseling Center (VA)

DBT Parenting Class online through Montgomery County Counseling Center

Gender Development Program for youth and their families at the Children’s National Hospital

Gender Spectrum’s online groups for gender-expansive youth and their families

McGill Neuropsychology, neuropsychological evaluations for children

Parent Encouragement Program (PEP) parenting classes and support services (DC but has virtual offerings)

PFLAG national organization supporting LGBTQIA+ people and their families and loved ones

Rainbow Families (resources and support for LGBTQIA+ families with children)

Sex Positive Families

Trans Families VA (Facebook page/community)

Children’s Nutrition

Child of Mine: Feeding with Love and Good Sense by Ellyn Satter

Eating Disorders

Beyond a Shadow of a Diet: The Comprehensive Guide to Treating Binge Eating Disorder, Compulsive Eating, and Emotional Overeating by Judith Matz and Ellen Frankel

Carolina House Center for Eating Disorders for queer and trans-inclusive residential treatment services

The Eating & Body Image Therapy Center for recovery from eating disorders (MD)

Rock Recovery therapeutic and group services for eating disorders in DC, VA, and CA

Sam Tryon, MS, RD– HAES/intuitive eating, body image, and recovery from eating disorder services (MD)

Intuitive Eating/Nutrition

Be Nourished events and services for Intuitive Eating, Health at Every Size (HAES), and fat liberation

Body Kindness with nutritionist and body-positive entrepreneur Rebecca Scritchfield

Gender Exploration, Support, and Self-Discovery

Trans & nonbinary support groups at the DC Center for the LGBT Community

You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery by Dara Hoffman Fox, LPC

Inclusive Mental Health and Medical Care

Carolina House Center for Eating Disorders for queer and trans-inclusive residential treatment services

Exploring Intimacy therapy and coaching with Dr. Ruthie (Ruth Neustifter, PhD, they/them) specializing in anti-oppression, queer issues, and gender transition

MedStar Gender Affirming Surgery and support resources (MD, DC, VA)

Dr. Natalya E. Danilyants, MD, nonbinary-friendly OB-GYN (MD)

Northern Virginia Pediatric Associates for trans-inclusive children’s care

Media

The Enby Book List (nonbinary protagonists in fiction) by JGFellers MtnCreative

Relationships

(En)Gender blog for partners of gender variant people

Youth

Gender Development Program for youth and their families at the Children’s National Hospital

Gender Spectrum’s online groups for gender-expansive youth and their families

Gender Wellness Clinic youth support groups at The Heartwood Program (MD)

InterACT: Advocates for Intersex Youth

Asexuality

Acebook, a free online dating network for asexuals

Ace in the Hole asexuality resource website

Ace Meetup, a Tumblr group for asexual community

A OK podcast about asexuality and aromanticism

Asexual Dating Site

(A)Sexual film by Angela Tucker

Asexuality Top 10 Common Misconceptions

The Asexual Visibility & Education Network

Celibate Passions, a free online dating network for asexual and celibate people

Fuck Yeah Asexual, a Tumblr for asexual support

The Invisible Orientation by Julie Sondra Decker

Yasmin Benoit’s Asexuality YouTube channel

Bisexuality

Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out by Loraine Hutchins and Lani Kaahumanu

Bisexual events and groups at the DC Center for the LGBT Community

Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire by Lisa M. Diamond

Culture Debate

John Corvino, Ph.D. (professor of philosophy who deals with homosexuality in mainstream culture as well as gay religious shame)

Gay Men

The Joy of Gay Sex by Charles Silverstein

Inclusive Services

Carolina House Center for Eating Disorders for queer and trans-inclusive residential treatment services

Dupont Circle Physician’s Group– LGBTQIA+ friendly primary care (DC)

One Medical– LGBTQIA+ friendly primary care (DC)

Queer Ear Mental Health

Marriage

Before “I Do”: Complete Pre-Marital Counseling Workbook for Heterosexual, LGBTQ, and Polyamorous Couples by Olivia L. Baylor

Parenting

PFLAG national organization supporting LGBTQIA+ people and their families and loved ones

Rainbow Families (resources and support for LGBTQIA+ families with children)

Queer Women

Girlfag: A Life Told in Sex and Musicals by Janet Hardy

Girl Sex 101: A Queer Pleasure Guide for Women and Their Lovers by Allison Moon

Youth

SMYAL’s virtual programming for queer youth

Anxiety

“50 Strategies to Beat Anxiety” in Psychology Today

Rootd app for panic attack & anxiety relief

Depression

McLean Neuropsychiatric Treatment Center for treatment-resistant depression (VA)

Mental Health Tools

“Being Prepared for a Crisis” resource for families/loved ones, by the National Alliance on Mental Illness

Born for Love: Why Empathy Is Essential– and Endangered by Bruce D. Perry and Maia Szalavitz

The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist’s Notebook — What Traumatized Children Can Teach Us About Loss, Love, and Healing by Bruce D. Perry and Maia Szalavitz

Crisis planning worksheet for perpetrators of abuse (to be prepared to de-escalate)

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook by Matthew McKay

The Feelings Wheel, an infographic for better defining your emotional state

The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, and Validation by Alan E. Fruzzetti and Marsha M. Linehan

Wellness Recovery Action Plan (WRAP)

Negative Thinking

“15 Cognitive Distortions to Blame for Your Negative Thinking” in PsychCentral

“Why Is Self-Acceptance So Hard?” on Psychology Today

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

Brain Lock: Free Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior by Jeffrey M. Schwartz

Exposure and Response (Ritual) Prevention for Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder: Therapist Guide by Edna B. Foa, Elna Yadin, and Tracey K. Lichner

The Imp of the Mind: Exploring the Silent Epidemic of Obsessive Bad Thoughts by Lee Baer

The OCD Workbook: Your Guide to Breaking Free from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder by Bruce Hyman, Ph.D. and Cherlene Pedrick, R.N.

Overcoming Perfectionism: A Self-Help Guide Using Scientifically Supported Cognitive Behavioural Techniques by Roz Shafran, Sarah Egan, and Tracey Wade

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

The Cognitive Behavioral Coping Skills Workbook for PTSD: Overcome Fear and Anxiety and Reclaim Your Life by Matthew T. Tull, Ph.D., Kim L. Gratz, Ph.D., and Alexander L. Chapman, Ph.D., RPsych

AASECT Courses

ACT UP! Black Sweat Series professional development workshops by Bianca Laureno

Association of Counseling Sexology & Sexual Wellness webinars

Integrative Sex Therapy Institute (ISTI)

Modern Path continuing education courses

Tennessee Alliance for Sexual Health professional development workshops and lectures

AASECT Supervision

AASECT Supervisee course tracker and tutorial for the tracker

Continuing Education/Training for Coaches, Therapists, and Educators

Institute for Sexuality Education & Enlightenment (ISEE)

Studies

“Frequency of Pornography Use and Sexual Health Outcomes in Sweden: Analysis of a National Probability Survey” in the Journal of Sexual Medicine

“Therapy Experiences of Clients with BDSM Sexualities: Listening to a Stigmatized Sexuality” on the Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality

ADHD

ADDitude’s ADHD self-checker

The Adult ADHD Center of Washington

Overcoming Perfectionism (book)

Autism

ADDitude’s Autism self-test

Before “I Do”: Complete Pre-Marital Counseling Workbook for Heterosexual, LGBTQ, and Polyamorous Couples by Olivia L. Baylor

“How to Write an Open Relationship Rules Agreement that Works” on Leveled Up Love

It’s Called Polyamory: Coming Out About Your Nonmonogamous Relationships by Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles

The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships by Kathy Labriola

Love’s Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamory and Other Alternative Communities by Kevin Patterson

More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory by Franklin Veaux

Non-monogamous contract example on Reddit

Open Relationship Agreement template

Poly Role Models polyamory interview Tumblr by Kevin Patterson

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern

Questions for Your Nonmonogamy Agreement (worksheet) by Tammy Nelson, Ph.D.

“Texting While Polyamoring” on Polyammering

When Someone You Love Is Polyamorous: Understanding Poly People and Relationships by Elisabeth Sheff

“Why Open Marriages Sometimes Work” by Deborah Anapol on Psychology Today

Anti-Racism

An African American and Latinx History of the United States by Paul Ortiz

How to Be An Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi

My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem, MSW, LICSW

White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism by Robin J. DiAngelo

BIPOC Sexuality

Afrosexology (sex education for Black people)

The Black Girl’s Guide to Couples’ Intimacy by Dr. Lexx Brown-James, LMFT, CSES, CSE

Zeshan Mustafa, somatic transformation coach for women of color

Race in Subcultures

Love’s Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamory and Other Alternative Communities by Kevin Patterson

Christianity

Advancing Sexual Health for the Christian Client by Rev. Beverly Dale, D Min, and Rachel Keller, LCSW

John Corvino, Ph.D. (professor of philosophy who deals with homosexuality in mainstream culture as well as gay religious shame)

Judaism

Mishkan R’fuah: Where Healing Resides by Rabbi Shira Stern and Rabbi Eric Weiss

Sacred Sexuality

Body Beloved: A Tantric Journey (Meetup in MD)

The Body Electric School

Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century by Barbara Carrellas

Universal Unitarianism

Our Whole Lives developmentally-appropriate sex education resources from the Universal Unitarian Association

Anal Sex

Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men, Women, and Couples by Jack Morin, Ph.D.

Episode 18 of the Sex and Psychology podcast with Dr. Justin Lehmiller, “Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Anal Sex, But Were Afraid to Ask” with Dr. Evan Goldstein

The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men by Bill Brent

The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taormino

BIPOC Sexuality

Afrosexology (sex education for Black people)

The Black Girl’s Guide to Couples’ Intimacy by Dr. Lexx Brown-James, LMFT, CSES, CSE

For People with Vulvas

Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

“Demystifying Female Ejaculation: What You Always Wanted to Know But Didn’t Know to Ask” by Francesca Gentille

General Sex Ed

The Body Electric School

The Guide to Getting It On by Paul Joannides

Helping Us Grow Sexually (H.U.G.S.)

Rebel Love: Break the Rules, Destroy Toxic Habits, and Have the Best Sex of Your Life by Dr. Chris Donaghue, Ph.D.

SexSmartFilms (videos on a wide variety of sex education and sexual literacy topics)

Wellcelium (sex ed, intimacy, relationships; queer/trans founded)

Oral Sex

She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian Kerner

Tantra

Body Beloved: A Tantric Journey (Meetup in MD)

Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century by Barbara Carrellas

Workshops with Sex Educators

Elle Chase class list

The Wheel of Consent online workshop series with Amy Weissfeld and JoJo Bear

Youth Sex Education

Our Whole Lives developmentally-appropriate sex education resources from the Universal Unitarian Association

Scarleteen

Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Checklist on Scarleteen

Anal Health

Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men, Women, and Couples by Jack Morin, Ph.D.

Erectile Functioning

“It’s No Dysfunction, Your Penis Is Fine: Understanding ‘Erectile Disappointment’” by Dr. Chris Donaghue on Medium

Exploring Sexuality

Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

Contemporary Male Sexuality by Barry & Emily McCarthy (aimed at cismale sexuality)

“Decipher Male Sexuality Through the Wisdom of These 8 Books” on Pretty Progressive (aimed at cismale sexuality)

“Frequency of Pornography Use and Sexual Health Outcomes in Sweden: Analysis of a National Probability Survey” in the Journal of Sexual Medicine

“Four Pillars of Strength” couples sex therapy exercise

Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers by Peggy Kleinplatz and A. Menard

Sex Outside the Lines: Authentic Sexuality in a Sexually Dysfunctional Culture by Dr. Chris Donaghue, Ph.D.

The Six Principles of Sexual Health on the Harvey Institute website

“Ways to Heal Sex & Body Shame (& Have Hotter Sex)” by Dr. Chris Donaghue, Ph.D. on Medium

“Why Men’s Sexual Functioning Differs in Solo vs. Partnered Sex” on Psychology Today by David J. Ley, Ph.D. (CW: conflates gender with genitals; intended for people with penises)

Yes, No, Maybe Checklist on Bex Talks Sex

Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Checklist on Scarleteen

Masturbation

“Men: A Step-By-Step Guide to Masturbating for Heightened Pleasure” in the Times of India (for people with penises; CW for gendered language)

Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving by Betty Dodson (primarily aimed at AFAB/cisfemale sexuality)

Orgasms/Anorgasmia/POIS

Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters– and How to Get It by Laurie Mintz (aimed at cisgender heterosexual partners)

Becoming Orgasmic: A Sexual and Personal Growth Programme for Women by Julia Heiman (for people with vulvas; CW for gendered language)

Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski (for people with vulvas; CW for gendered language)

The Elusive Orgasm: A Woman’s Guide to Why She Can’t and How She Can Orgasm by Vivienne Cass, Ph.D. (for people with vulvas; CW for gendered language)

The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams (for people with penises; CW for gendered language)

Post Orgasmic Illness Syndrome (POIS) resources

Post-Partum Sexuality

The Orgasmic Mama

Sexuality After Childbirth: Debunking the Myths and Discovering New Heights of Pleasure by Yonina Rubenstein

Sexy Mamas: Keeping Your Sex Life Alive While Raising Kids by Cathy Winks & Anne Semans

Safer Sex Supplies

Lorals panties latex alternative to dental dams

Senior Sex

Guide to Wicked Sex: Senior Sex with jessica drake and Joan Price DVD

Sensate Focus

“Recovering Your Sex Drive with Sensate Focus Mindful Touching Techniques” on YouTube by Linda Weiner, MSW, LCSW AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, Supervisor, CE Provider

Sensate Focus description & instructions PDF from Cornell Health

Sex Studies/Research

“Changes in Penile-Vaginal Intercourse Frequency and Sexual Repertoire from 2009 to 2018: Findings from the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior” by Debbie Herbenick, Molly Rosenberg, Lilian Golzarri-Arroyo, J. Dennis Fortenberry, and Tsung-chieh Fu

“Frequency of Pornography Use and Sexual Health Outcomes in Sweden: Analysis of a National Probability Survey” by Kinda Malki, M.D., Christoffer Rahm, M.D., Ph.D., Katarina Gorts Oberg, Ph.D., and Peter Ueda, M.D., Ph.D

Sex Toys, Supplies, and Supports

A Femmecock sex-positive toy reviews

Hey Epiphora sex-positive toy reviews

Ohnut review on Allure (tool for limiting depth of PIV penetration)

Hacking//Hustling (sex workers collective for social justice in technology)

Red Umbrella Sex Workers Fund

Sex Workers Outreach Project (SWOP)

Woodhull Freedom Foundation

Family and Sexual Child Abuse

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lyndsay C. Gibson, PsyD

The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist’s Notebook — What Traumatized Children Can Teach Us About Loss, Love, and Healing by Bruce D. Perry and Maia Szalavitz

Helping a Child Who Has Been Sexually Abused, a guide from Herman Law that includes information about legal options

The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Wendy Maltz

Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life by Susan Forward

Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse by Mike Lew

Racialized Trauma

My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem, MSW, LICSW

Rape/Sexual Assault

DC Rape Crisis Center

RAINN (national sexual assault support services)

Trauma Healing

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk

Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse by Shannon Thomas LCSW

“Healing Sexual Trauma Through BDSM”, profile of Mistress Couple and her work in the Daily Beast

SexSmart: How Your Childhood Shaped Your Sexual Life and What to Do With It by Aline P. Zoldbrod, Ph.D.

What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry