Everyone needs that person in their lives—you know the one. The person you can go to with any sex or relationship question, who’s never shocked by them and always has some resource or advice. The one who helps you feel better about your body and suggests a whole new way of looking at it. The one you want to tell about that thing you tried in bed or the identity you’re discovering, because you know they’ll Get It and they’ll be just as excited for you as you are. I’ve been that person throughout my life, and that’s what I bring to my coaching and education work at The Pincus Center.

My coaching style is welcoming, inclusive, and curious. I’m not here to impose my vision or ideas onto your life, but to help you discover and clarify your values, needs, goals, and yearnings. I’m patient and creative about helping you figure out how to face your fears and clear your obstacles. This is YOUR work—my role is to help you find the best way to do it and gently offer accountability. I work virtually and in person (DC/MD/VA metro area) and specialize in:

• Ethical non-monogamy/polyamory/opening up
• Dating and relationship skill building, including dating apps
• Social skills including conversation/communication and even public speaking (I’m a trained actor and presentation designer who has coached executives in public speaking)
• Sexuality, including exploring your desires, understanding consent, exploring kink and power exchange, and understanding your sexual orientation
• Body image, fat liberation, and self-expression from confidence to gender presentation to your personal aesthetic
• Finding and stepping into your power as a femme or feminine human
• Creativity and creative expression—unlocking the lost artist in you, or simply living a more colorful and richer creative life. If you’ve read The Artist’s Way, you already understand what this means

I also teach my own classes and workshops focusing on pleasure-based sex positivity, healthy relationships, and body image.

As a queer, polyamorous fat woman, I know how difficult it can be to find safe spaces and resources that embrace identities outside the mainstream. I strive with my work to build community and create inclusive, welcoming spaces where everyone is seen and valued. I want my writing to help fill in the gaps of important cultural conversations. I believe that everyone needs to find their authentic, unique path to joy and fulfillment, and I want to help clear the way.

Outside of The Pincus Center, I am the host and producer (as my burlesque alter ego Diva Darling) of Smut Slam DC, the open mic storytelling show about sex, which for six years has provided a rowdy, heavily queer and trans, bonding space to share our sexual truth and slip in stealth sex ed. I have 17 years of experience as an instructor and workshop facilitator in areas ranging from body positivity and burlesque performance, to sex and kink education, to sacred sexuality, to public speaking. I have presented events, taught, or spoken at venues including adult boutique Lotus Blooms, the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit, Black Rose, DC After Dark, Sacred Sexuality Beltane, Fires of Venus, Free Spirit Gathering, Joe’s Movement Emporium, and freeq’s virtual Pridefest.

You’re the one who’s truly going to make the magic happen, but I can still be the fairy godmother who helps you find happier-ever-after. Contact me for a consultation and let’s see how we can transform that pumpkin in your life.